I was hosting a wine and app get together last night for our "Barrington Mamas" group -- the brainchild of my kick a** and wonderful friend Amy, who describes the intention of the group as, "sharing information regarding new, exciting opportunities in town for our kids and other resources - and perhaps even organizing some mama-venting nights . . . ." When Supermom heard that, I of course offered to host a get - together. Sister loves a party.
What my guests didn't know was that it was the one year anniversary of my Mom passing away suddenly. For me, it was the perfect way to honor my (Lake Bluff and Calabasas) Mama. I even made mini cheeseburgers (and hamburgers for the dairy free crowd), like she used to do at our Lake Bluff shin digs. I smiled as I put 'em out on the pretty white plates, because my Mom was right there with me. She woulda loved those plates.
Life can be challenging at times. We've all lived those times and perhaps you are living through something that sucks right now. If you are, I'm sorry, and I get it. Believe me, I get it.
Life can also be magical and amazing.
What I learned to do as a very young child was focus on the magic. I noticed that if I did, the Universe would send me more of that stuff - the magic - and less of the crappy stuff. I did live through some seriously crappy stuff but as I focused on the other, the other got bigger, and more frequent.
Some might think it would be hard to host a party on the night of the one year anniversary of your Mom passing away suddenly. For me it was the opposite. It forced me to focus on what is magical and what makes me happy -- my new good friends in Barrington, Rhode Island, meeting new "Barrington Mama" friends, cleaning my house for a party (always a good distraction for a Virgo), making yummy apps and spreading light and love on this planet. And when I lit the candles, one by one, I felt my Mom in my heart.
Ya, I believe in magic.