I was eating handmade soft tacos at my friend Lee's house on Sunday night and he said something I just loved, "Hey, I always say, when you're 50, you can do what you want . . . . " This was in reference to something I forget now but I loved the gestalt of what he said. And I want to take it a bit further (who, me?).
How about, we can ALL do what we want . . . NOW . . . why wait till you're 50? Meaning how 'bout we all walk this planet as our authentic selves and accept each other as just that. How about we all know that it is not our job to change or "fix" others, but to just co-exist in harmony with all of our wonderful differences. Because they make life interesting -- and fun! How about leaving all of the details up to the Universe and just having fun with each other -- and not judging?
On my path so far in this lifetime, I have noticed that I feel a huge sense of relief when I remember this and just live and enjoy and breathe and love people where they are. We ALL get stuck sometimes on the oh so unpleasant (and unsuccessful) path of trying to change or "fix" someone else . . . it happens without us knowing or realizing most often -- it's just a human "lower self" reaction -- hey, we all have 'em. It's about noticing, reframing, and beginning again. Again and again.
So for today, when you are tempted to judge someone or something, use this sentence and insert the proper words: "Hey, when you're (insert the number here), you can do what you want. So I'm just gonna accept and embrace (insert name of person here) where she/he is and smile and breathe and move on."