“If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
― Roald Dahl
We don't heal the past by dwelling there. We heal the past by being totally present in the NOW and shining our light.
People sometimes ask me if I teach denial. Absolutely not. I'm trained as a Clinical Psychologist and healed from my own painful past by facing it.
What I teach is to not dwell in the past if it don't feel good to do so (i.e. ok and great to dwell if it's a happy memory, because that happy memory be creating more happy memories in the NOW). It's ok to revisit it to heal it, but then move on.
Here's a simple BEST LIFE EVER "rule of thumb": If it feels good, by all means, dwell in it! If it feels bad, don't.
Pretty simple, eh? Most things of value are.